Brain Food
Here's To Your New Year's Resolution
Don't remember 2 months ago. Don't remember when you made a New Year's Resolution. A promise to lose weight. Or stop smoking. Or start exercising. Or whatever. Don't realize it's March and the snow has melted, the feeling in your hands has returned and your resolution didn't stick.
Instead, brag about your continued success. About the hard work that has gloriously paid off! The healthy soreness in your calves from jogging. The patch on your arm replacing the cigarette between your fingers.
Okay, enough of that! What happened?
As a follow-up to my January article ("Stay Stuck To Your New Year's Resolution"), let's check-in and re-assess.
For those who found success, bravo! Don't stop. Repeatedly remind yourself why you're doing it. Constantly reward yourself for every single step you take. Remember, there's no goal here. This is life.
Now, for those who didn't do so well, why didn't it stick? Did you look at your cigarette come January 2nd and figure there's always next week? You joined a gym but still haven’t worked out? Maybe you ate well for a week then cheated, so you gave up. Or maybe...
Whatever. It's Spring. Time for new beginnings. A New New Year. The sun is out. It's warmer. Sunshine sure puts me in a better mood. Maybe you're not the winter type. Maybe, for you, it's a Spring Resolution.
Ask yourself:
1. Are you truly willing to make the effort this time to kick a bad habit or start a healthy one? Remember, your commitment needs to be strong - your willingness to sacrifice needs to be true.
2. Is the pressure to make a change at this new moment in time your sure-fire ingredient for failure? If so, then you're not ready. True desire to change can come at any time, any day, any moment. When you know it, you'll do it.
Okay, so let's say now's the time. Get your business in order.
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** Regroup. Forgive yourself for failing. You're only human. Life happens. It has obstacles, distractions, disappointments. Expect to have multiple starts. If you do, you'll be much better prepared to handle them. A Columbia University study on addictive behavior defines 'resolution regrouping' as, simply, "having a life setback, then trying again". As children if we fell off our bikes we were urged to get back on and try again. Same rules apply.
** Have in mind a plan A, B, and C. A is wonderful, B is OK and C is not so great, but it'll do. According to the New England Journal of Medicine, it's the people who are "paralyzed in plan A who fall apart".
** Rid yourself of negative speak. You are your own worst enemy. Recognize your accomplishments. No matter how large or small, congratulate yourself on a job well done. An ex-trainer of Olympic athletes once asked his clients how they handled a lousy day or a bad week. Invariably, they never beat themselves up. Instead, they acknowledged what it was and just "got over it".
** Talk to yourself. Come up with a new vernacular of encouragement. Find something that speaks to you, that's all yours. ** 30 Days. They say it takes 30 days to create a habit. Just 30 days makes something easier to do in life, and it becomes almost second-nature if done on a consistent basis. Commit yourself to 30 days of trying out the life you desire and see what happens. No pressure.
Though this all sounds very simple and easy, we both know it's not. But it is important. You must make your life about yourself. Not only imperative to your survival, but essential to your quality of life.
A verse from one of those silly winter holiday cartoons goes:
Put one foot in front of the other and soon you'll be walkin' 'cross the floor.
Put one foot in front of the other and soon you’ll be walkin' out the door.
Simple. But true.
- Jeffrey Fox - Group Fitness Instructor, New York
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